It takes courage to speak up. It carries a lot of risks
including the possibility of being misunderstood. We do have a choice to just shut up or to be
assertive enough to express our views. We also need to know when to say
things and when not to say them. Not necessarily never to say them at all
but to have the patience to wait for the proper time.
The spirit in which things are said is also important. I
remember taking an assertiveness course and what I got from it was something I
use when I am afraid to speak up. To gain courage, our lecturer said these two things must be remembered. 1. You are important and
therefore you have the right to speak up and 2. You are there to speak up because
you are important and not because you want to change the person's mind.
In other words, do not think outcome. You do things to respect your own
opinion and to find your voice. When the motive is to control the other
person or persons, then you put a lot of pressure on yourself. You would think
it is an impossible task to accomplish and just give up or when you speak up
and the other person reacts in a manner you did not expect or desire, an
altercation can occur. Sometimes we imagine the latter in our mind before
we speak up and totally freeze not wanting it to occur.
Speak up and then shut up. You have done what you set to do.
As the poster says, you stood for - YOU.
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